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Am I listening?

Rebecca R. Pauly

I hear you say

        My plate is full

        I am having trouble sleeping

        I am more tearful these past six months

        My energy is low

        I find it hard to engage

 

But, do I listen to know

        Your mother’s health is declining

        She will likely move in with you and your family

        At night your mind races

        You have been through changes

        Too numerous to count

        You are now an empty nester

        And how you long for the noisy chatter of teenagers

        You no longer attend exercise classes 

        You just don’t have the time

        You seem to be pulling back 

        From activities that gave you joy

 

I should listen to understand

        You feel burned out 

        You hope wellness can be restored

        You know your current state is not sustainable

        You are open to discussing your stressors

        You believe joy is just below the surface

        Needing dedicated nurturing

 

What I hear and how I can listen

        Words communicate

        Feelings held tightly to the chest

        I will listen to the words and beyond

        For values, vision, content, and context

        To respond to the human cry of emotions

 

When I have truly listened 

        I witness your opening up

        I catch a glimpse into your soul

        As if a bud is expanding to reveal

        A vivid sun-soaked yellow blossom

        Creating a collaborative 

        Awareness for healing

 

Rebecca Pauly, MD: Vice Dean and Professor of Medicine, VTCSOM; Vice Chair, Department of Medicine, Carilion Clinic